A Woman in Marriage by Henry Chukwueke
A woman is part of man according to creation. Genesis 2:21-23. A woman is a rib of man. Therefore, every wife is not a stranger to her husband, rather part of him.
I defined marriage earlier as "a woman's home coming". A woman is an indispensable part of man. And extremely important personality in a man's life. This is the reason why Adam exclaimed. "This is the bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.
Every man is happy when he finds a wife, and happier when the woman fits in and cooperate with him. A woman has a divine mission and greater responsibility in marriage, very few have this knowledge.
The divine mission of a woman in marriage is "to fill the loneliness of man" - This is the bedrock of marriage happiness and success. Any woman who succeeds in this, will have the support of her husband, and every other responsibility will become easy.
Woman as the Helper
The word "Helper" is not that of inferiority as God, is referred to as a helper. The book of Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 is describes the essence of a helper or companionship. "Two are better than one. Because they have a good reward for their labor. For it they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But, how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken".
Loneliness is a sickness, and also can be a root of many other sicknesses. It is the root cause of evil. A lonely man is a depressed person. From depression other psychological or physiological problems may arise. This, the Lord knew, and gave a man a companion - A helper.
As a helper, you play a major role in a man's life. With your position as a helper, you can make or mar him. Remember, Eve, Delilah and Jezebel were bad helpers, while Zipporah, Mary and the Shunamite Woman were good helpers. So, you must aspire and strive to be a good helper.
A helper in marriage is conferred enormous responsibility, as the Bible expressed in Proverbs 31:10-31. A good helper is invaluable, trustworthy, respectful, submissive, industrious, hospitable, creative, Christ controlled, homely, hard-working and God fearing.
To be all these, one needs to be close to God, that He may grant one the grace to excel in such a responsibility.
Wives in Home Leadership
I stated that no husband can successfully head his household unless his wife corporately respects the headship and leadership position God placed upon him. Without her conscious decision to obey God's law, she will usurp his leadership role in the family and the couples will constantly quarrel.
I wrote earlier, that, the woman is the neck and the man the head. The head won't move if the neck is stiff. This also points at the importance of the woman in a marriage and the need, to be wise.
God expects you as the wife to acknowledge the headship of the man, respect, honor and reverence him. By so doing, you have won over the man's confidence, trust and total respect. He will never take a decision without you nor do anything secret without your consent.
In leadership position, no person is infallible, including your husband. They are human, and are bound to take decision sometimes, that may be bad or inconsiderate. This is where you play your role as a helper. You must be prayerful.
Your constant prayers for him will help him a lot in taking good decisions. Sometimes, you need to physically intervene, by adopting a good conduct with right timing and influence him to appraise and review certain decisions or plans. This is where "fitting in" play an important role.
Husbands respect their wives view when they have successfully fitted in, with proves that she is passionate about the man and the family's well being. Such a woman will always get the attention of her husband.
But, if the woman is quarrelsome and rude, the man may be dictatorial and autocratic in decisions and plans.
According to Stormie Omartian, the author of a praying woman, she wrote; "A wife is an ordained helper for her husband. You are to surround your husband with assistance, spiritually, physically and materially. You must make him know that if he falls, you are always there for him - Build that trust".
You can only earn his respect and trust by respecting his authority and by being submissive to him. By so doing, you will be part of the home leadership on advisory and influencing capacity.
Visit my recommended site: http://www.i-proclaimbookstore.com for these books,Marriage Gods Way,A Suitable Helpmate,Marriage Devotional For Women and 210 Pebbles for Marriage Success Source : http://goarticles.com/article/A-Woman-in-Marriage/4462444/
Find us on Facebook: