Dear Godly Woman,
I have a Question?
Please keep me as anonymous. I was raised in apostolic churches and know
marriage is for life. I backslide and got divorced and now live with a guy and
we have a 2 yr old. We recently both started going to church. What are everyone’s
views? Can we get married or do we need to split? I know what I've been taught
but someone has told me different than what I was taught. Can someone help me and
give scripture to back up? I’m a bit confused now.
Godly Woman Answers:
Dear Confused,
There are Four Biblical truths I would love to share with you
and to others who might be going through the same situation as yours:
Almost all of us, who grew up to be Christians, are taught
certain truth’s from the scripture that we must obey and to keep for life. One
of these teachings is obeying the 10 Commandments; we all try our best and obey
these commandments or, like some, take it lightly as they grow. But, did you
know? this by itself, does not make you a true Christian? – Why? Because, “All of us have become like one who is
unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up
like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.” – Isaiah 64:6
So whatever good we do is filthy rags; this does not mean you
must not do good, YOU MUST at any cost, it does not make us any better than the
next person or get the highest reward from heaven, that’s not the goal here,
You do good because you love God and out of love you help and do good to all
mankind without partiality.
So what makes us worthy in the sight of God? – The precious blood
of HIS only son, Jesus Christ. “For God
so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in
him shall not perish but have eternal life.” – John 3:16
Jesus is the One you need.
Him alone. Not your works – “As it is written: “There is no one
righteous, not even one; there is no one who understands; there is no one who
seeks God. All have turned away; they
have together become worthless; there is no one who does good, not even one.” –
Romans 3:10-12 & (Isaiah 64:6).
Not your sincerity. Not your
goodness. You have nothing to offer God
except your sinfulness. It is only by
the love and grace of God found in Jesus and His sacrifice that you can be
delivered from the righteous wrath of God upon all who have broken His
law. Jesus saves you from God’s wrath.
Jesus wants us to Love God and to Love our neighbors – Jesus answered, “‘Love the Lord your God
with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with your
entire mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” – Luke 27:10 – In the
New testament, this verse is given to us in the form of a capsule for the 10
commandments, if we do these two things that Jesus requires – to Love God and to Love your neighbors –
then everything else will fall into its place, once we obey this command, we will
automatically obey the 10 commandments too, it follows’ up, the reason, once we
love, like the way God loves, we will not be stealing, gossiping, hating,
taking revenge, disrespecting, murdering, slandering, disobeying, coveting and
all other sin’s. Once the true love of God resides in us the change will be
immediate and effective. Others around us will start seeing this true Christ
like change in us. That’s when we have truly become a born-again and accepting
Christ and learning to love others like Jesus, without any hate or guilt. God
is love and love conquerors every wicked ways. Remember - “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” – 1 John
4:8
Marriage
– "Marriage is a
sacred covenant done between a man and a woman in the presence of God. It
is designed for a companionship and
intimacy, BUT, most Importantly GOD designed Marriage to
please HIM!"
Here are 5 articles based on the subject marriage and I would
love you to read and understand the depth of it. Here are the links to go -
Marriage Duties of the Christian Husband and Wife -- http://www.godlywoman.co/2011/10/marriage-duties-of-christian-husband.html
10 Things To Avoid If You Do Not Want To Ruin Your Marriage -- http://www.godlywoman.co/2012/08/10-things-to-avoid-if-you-do-not-want.html
5 Signs Your Marriage Has Healthy Submission
http://www.godlywoman.co/2012/11/5-signs-your-marriage-has-healthy.html
MARRIAGE The Beautiful Happily Ever After
http://www.godlywoman.co/2009/08/happily-ever-after.html
Romans 7:2-3 -
For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he
is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the
husband. So then if, while her husband is living, she is joined to another man,
she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from
the law, so that she is not an adulteress, though she is joined to another man.
Malachi 2:14-15
"Yet you say, 'For what reason?' Because the LORD has
been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have
dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.
"But not one has done so who has a remnant of the Spirit. And what did
that one do while he was seeking a godly offspring? Take heed then, to your
spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth.
Ephesians 5:33
Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own
wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.
Matthew 19:6
"Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh.
What therefore God has joined together let no man separate."
Matthew 5:31-32
"And it was said, 'Whoever sends his wife away, let him
give her a certificate of divorce'; but I say to you that everyone who divorces
his wife, except for the cause of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and
whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Mark 10:2-12
And some Pharisees came up to Him, testing Him, and began to
question Him whether it was lawful for a man to divorce a wife. And He answered
and said to them, "What did Moses command you?" And they said,
"Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her
away." But Jesus said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart he
wrote you this commandment. "But from the beginning of creation, God made
them male and female. "For this cause a man shall leave his father and
mother, and the two shall become one flesh; consequently they are no longer
two, but one flesh. "What therefore God has joined together let no man
separate." And in the house the disciples began questioning Him about this
again. And He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another
woman commits adultery against her; and if she herself divorces her husband and
marries another man, she is committing adultery."
Luke 16:18
"Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another
commits adultery; and he who marries one who is divorced from a husband commits
adultery.
1 Corinthians 7:10-15
But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord,
that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, let her
remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband
should not send his wife away. But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any
brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, let
him not send her away. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he
consents to live with her, let her not send her husband away. For the
unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is
sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are
unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him
leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God
has called us to peace.
1 Corinthians 7:39
A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her
husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the
Lord.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4
"When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens
that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her,
and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends
her out from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another
man's wife, and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a
certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house,
or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife, then her former
husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife,
since she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the LORD, and you
shall not bring sin on the land which the LORD your God gives you as an
inheritance.
Here are some articles based on Divorce –
Are You Living in the Past? -
http://www.godlywoman.co/2013/01/are-you-living-in-past.html
Instead of Saying "I Love You", Show Love In Your Actions - http://www.godlywoman.co/2012/12/instead-of-saying-i-love-you-show-love.html
Dating, Marriage, Break-ups, Separations and God
http://www.godlywoman.co/2012/08/dating-marriage-break-ups-separations.html
Pregnant Before Marriage
http://www.godlywoman.co/2012/08/pregnant-before-marriage.html
Christians and Divorce - How Divorce Affects Teenagers
http://www.godlywoman.co/2012/10/christians-and-divorce-how-divorce.html
How to Know If You Have Met the Right Christian Person For Marriage?
Divorce is serious, but unfortunately now, is becoming accepted, even in Christian
circles. I believe that it is time that we took a stand against such
destruction upon the family. Every faithful friend and acquaintance should
challenge and plead with those who are tempted by the evil one to leave their
covenantal marriage and the precious children whom God has given them.
Covenant-breaking is a serious sin. We must repent and humble
ourselves before our loving and merciful God. We must never forget that God’s loving
forgiveness is entirely based on sincere repentance. If we will not repent, we
will surely hasten the judgment of God.
“For all have sinned and fall short of the
glory of God,” – Romans 3:23
There is this beautiful story that is in
the Bible, where, Jesus forgiving this woman, a prostitute, a sinner, in John 8:1-11 and below is the story,
please read – to see the beauty of compassion and love Jesus has for sinners like us.
“But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. At dawn
he appeared again in the temple courts; where all the people gathered around
him, and he sat down to teach them. The teachers of the law and the Pharisees
brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and
said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the
Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” They were
using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.
But Jesus bent down and started to write on the
ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up
and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw
a stone at her.” Again he stooped down
and wrote on the ground.
At this, those who heard began to go away one
at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman
still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are
they? Has no one condemned you?”
“No one,
sir,” she said.
“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus
declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (<----- that is a very important verse for everyone to understand and to learn from it. Ask God to help us lead a pure life, only God can help and guide us in this matter.)
This is the beauty of going back to Christ, asking his
forgiveness, and living a sinless life; we can only do this by accepting Him as
our Savior and obeying his commandments and by doing His will. God wants us to obey
him, he will give grace to our circumstances if we truly repent and go back to
him. Keep it a priority to pray, read and meditate on the word of God, take
time to listen to what God wants to speak to you through his word, love Him and
love one another. This will bring any cycle of bondage to nothingness, because
Christ covers us with his blood and shields us if we are truly, faithfully and
sincerely repentant and seeking His heart and plans for our lives. And that’s
the end of that story – NO ONE in this world can break your covenant and your Relationship
with Christ! Praise God!
Therefore, now is a good time to sit back and talk to God
about all our sin’s sincerely, bringing everything to openness, at his feet,
this will free us from every guilt, shame, bitterness, anger, revenge and hatred. Only the
truth of God can set us free --- JESUS is the only Truth! – Jesus answered, "I am the way and the
truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. – John 14:6
“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring
a reward from him. Like arrows in the
hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose
quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with
their opponents in court.” – Psalm 127:
3-5
It is
best and healthy to raise a child in Biblical perspectives (do not allow them
to adopt the worldly culture) -- “Do not
conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the
renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's
will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.” – Romans 12:12
Let God
in His mercy help us as parent's, as we seek Him to raise a family to honor Him. This will not only help us, but your children will be a blessing to everyone else around us too.
Teach your Children to:
❤ Love God
and people.
❤ Respect
everyone alike.
Help your Children to learn:
❤ Bible
verses.
❤ Songs
related to Jesus.
❤ Give them
opportunities to express their views and as you go correct them with patience,
so they can understand and learn.
Enjoy and love your children as they grow, nurture them in every way, do not scream at them,
talk calmly and help them understand things they do not understand or know.
They just came into this world and it is the parent’s responsibility to guide
and help them in the guidance of Christ. In the long run, this will make you
the proud dad and mom of your children.
Last, but not least, Remember:
God Is Bigger Than Our Circumstances and Jesus must be given First priority in every matter of life. J
May You have a blessed life as God intendeds it to be.
Power Verses
to help you:
I Peter 4:8
Keep your love for one another at full
strength, because love covers a multitude of sins.
Proverbs 31:10-30
A wife of noble
character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and
lacks nothing of value. She brings him
good, not harm, all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her
food from afar. She gets up while it is
still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant
girls. She considers a field and buys
it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her
tasks. She sees that her trading is
profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps
the spindle with her fingers. She opens
her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her
household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is
clothed in fine linen and purple. Her
husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders
of the land. She makes linen garments
and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she
can laugh at the days to come. She
speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he
praises her: "Many women do noble
things, but you surpass them all."
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the
LORD is to be praised.
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